During that episode I said:
If we want to succeed, we may fail many times.
Now, I want to correct myself:
If we want to succeed, we must fail many times.
We must build a strong failure resilience if we want success.
It took me a long time to internalize this maximum, and I have to admit it’s not always comfortable to follow.
Two resources that help me build my failure resilience are:
An interview with Sarah Blakely, the founder of Spanx and self-made billionaire, where she tells how her father used to ask every night at the dinning room table:
“Okay kids, what did you fail at today?”
This is a 3-minute video that is really worth your time.
Blakely's story is an amazing example of how to reframe failure.
See the video below and ask yourself:
– “What did I fail at today?”
The other resources is a book titled:
Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There
The author Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz create a compelling story to show us how our image of a fork in the road where one option is failure and the other option is success, is a misleading one. A better and more realistic visualization is to see failures are the stepping stones to success.
What are you waiting for:
Just take the risk, do it, fail, learn and try again.
Repeat this, as many time as you need, to succeed.